The Secure Self Planner

The ASM Companion for Daily Attunement

$25.00

The Secure Self Planner (Digital Edition)

A 12 Week ASM Companion for Daily Attunement.

Healing doesn't happen in one big breakthrough. It happens in small, everyday choices to pause, notice yourself, and respond with care.

The Secure Self Planner: Digital Edition was created as the perfect companion to Attachment Style Makeover (ASM); Designed for iPad and tablet users who want a flexible, interactive way to practice self attunement and secure living.

Why You'll Love It

Made for GoodNotes & iPad Users. Write, highlight, and customize with Apple Pencil.
Easy Navigation: Hyperlinked tabs let you jump instantly between sections.
Unlimited Use: Duplicate pages as often as you need. One download lasts forever.
Therapy-Friendly: Capture session insights and track your growth between appointments.
Built Around ASM;s Framework: Attune, Identify Needs, Meet Needs.

What's Inside:

Daily Check-In Template: Mood tracker, emotion word, body cue, top 3 focus items and reflection space.
Monthly Calendar & Reflection: Evergreen monthly grid plus guided prompts to anticipate boundaries and set intentions.
Therapy Notes Pages: Templates to capture takeaways, breakthroughs, and assignments.
Quarterly Deep Dive: Reflection + intention setting spread to help you reset every 12 weeks.
A Quick Reference Guide: A shortened attachment style "cheat sheet" for daily recall.

How It Works

Download your planner PDF instantly after purchase.
Import into Notability, GoodNotes, or Noteshelf.
Use hyperlinked tabs to navigate.
Write, highlight, and duplicate pages as often as you need.

Who It's For

This Planner is designed for:

Professionals balancing leadership and family life.
Mothers navigating attachment shifts.
Anyone ready to bring healing work from therapy into daily practice.

Start Your Journey

The Secure Self Planner isn't about perfection. It's about showing up for yourself, one page at a time.

This digital edition of The Secure Self Planner is designed for iPad/tablet use in apps like Notability, GoodNotes, or Noteshelf. It works just like the print version, but we added the flexibility of duplicating pages as often as you need.

Step 1: Import the Planner

Download your PDF file from your purchase link.
Open Notability (or your preferred app).
Tap the "+" (New Document) and choose Import
Select the planner PDF. It will now appear as a planner in your library.

Step 2: Navigate with Tabs

Use the colored tabs on the right side of each page to jump between sections: Monthly, Daily, Reflection, Notes, Quarterly.
You can also return to the Table of Contents any time to see the full structure.

Step 3: Fill In Your Pages

Use your Apple Pencil, or stylus to write directly on the planner pages.
You can also use the text tool if you prefer typing.

Step 4: Duplicate Templates (for Daily Use)

The planner includes enough template pages to get you through 3 months. To create more pages:

Tap the thumbnail view in your app.
Select the page you want to duplicate (e.g., the Daily Check-In).
Tap Duplicate Page (in GoodNotes, use the "Copy+Paste" option).
Your duplicated page will appear right after the original.
Repeat as needed.

Step 5: Make It Yours

Color-code entries with highlighter tool.
Add digital stickers or images if you enjoy customizing your pages.
Use bookmarks in app to quickly access your most important pages.

That's it! With daily use, this planner will become your digital companion for attunement, boundaries, and intentional living.

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Frequently asked questions about ASM

What exactly will this help me with?

This workbook helps you understand how your attachment style shows up in love, friendship, parenting, leadership, and self-talk. It gives you the language, tools, and guided reflection to break unhealthy patterns and begin moving toward emotional safety in your relationships — starting with yourself.

Is this something I can do on my own?

Absolutely. It’s designed for self-paced exploration. Whether you’re in therapy or not, this workbook helps you build emotional awareness, language for your needs, and practical tools to shift your relationship patterns — one page at a time.

I’ve done therapy/read books before — what makes this different?

Most resources skip over the real-life intersections of trauma, culture, and emotional labor. This one doesn’t. It was created by two licensed BIPOC therapists who work with women, mothers, and leaders navigating identity, legacy, and survival mode. It’s honest, layered, and made to meet you where you are.

Will I be triggered by any of the content?

This workbook invites deep reflection, so it may bring up strong emotions. But it’s written with warmth, clarity, and care — with plenty of grounding tools and affirming language throughout. You’re encouraged to go at your own pace and pause when needed.

I don’t even know what my attachment style is. Will this still help?

Yes — you don’t need to know anything before starting. The workbook includes an attachment style overview and guided self-discovery prompts that help you reflect on your patterns and experiences, without judgment.

Is this workbook faith-based?

No, it’s not religious — but it does honor the sacredness of your healing. If you’re spiritually grounded, there’s space to integrate your beliefs with the guided prompts.

Our digital resources are designed for your personal use.
Sharing, distributing, or reproducing these materials without permission may violate copyright law — but more importantly, it disrupts the integrity of our small, community-supported healing work.

Thank you for honoring the time, intention, and emotional labor that make these tools possible.